Yahoo: I feel bad for doing this, how do I talk to her?

There's this girl at work, who I think I may like. She's always the one initiating the conversation, greeting and acknowledging me, and goes out of her way to talk to me. She stands really close to me when she talks, and at times, she'll touch my arms or poke me on my back. I feel like the biggest jerk doing this, but I tend to ignore her most of the time, and not really return the favour when she greets me. If she'll say "hi" for instance, I'll just look at her and continue walking like if she didn't say anything. If she'll ask me a question, I reply back with very little input, like a simple "Yeah" or "Oh, cool". I can tell she tries a lot to start up a conversation with me, and I feel like a d*uchebag not putting in the effort. Thing is, I'm kind of insecure about myself, and I don't know why she's doing this. I mean, out of all the people at work, she's always trying to talk to me. I generally tend to be shy around girls (which is why I stay quiet), but when I'm with the guys, I can talk normally and I guess I'm completely the opposite. It's just with girls, I feel like if I say something wrong, they'll be quick to judge me or something. Anyways, recently she's only been smiling at me. When I'm near her, she'll play with her hair or stand awkwardly and look in the other direction. She'll also put her lips in her mouth and look down on the floor. I think she thinks I ignore her because I don't like her, or seem interested. I feel REALLY bad and I want to start talking to her, but I don't know what to say or do. My question is: 1. Does she like me? 2. If she likes me or not, I don't want her to feel like I'm ignoring her, what can I do?


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Hey There!


Firstly, this girl seems very fond of you! She has obviously grown to like you a lot in the workplace, and having read you're details, it's clear that she wants to become friend's with you, and possibly, if you allow time to build a strong and trusted relationship together, you may even become a couple if you like her enough! 


Moreover, if she has been physically touching you, then she must have an attraction to you! Which is very complimentary to you of course! I don't think i need to explain into further detail how she may like you, because if you have taken the time to notice these small moments together, and the way she treats you to other's, it's self-explanatory. 


However, i have to be completely honest, you have behaved rather rudely, and i couldn't help but feel absolutely awful for the girl, she has tried very hard to gain you're attention, and i realise you may have insecurities, but don't we all? You can't just ignore her, and simply excuse you're actions because you're shy. I understand how shyness can make socialising with someone whom you have never spoken to before difficult, but you need to make the effort, and overcome this, otherwise, you'll be very lonely in the future! 


My advice is this, go buy her some lovely flowers, a box of chocolates, and even go as far as to buy her a card, just do something that you haven't done for you're co-workers, and show her that you care, and that you have thought about her, it's the very least she deserves, and please smile at her, and have a conversation! I could honestly go on all day, but seriously, be yourself, and be polite! 


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