Is It Time To End My Relationship For Good?

Hi Shaun!


We have been going out for just over 5 months now.

I'm 16, and he's 17.

I've never felt this way for a guy, and I do love him, and I know he loves me.

I've never had a guy like him, and I never want to dream of leaving him.

However, we're now at the stage where we fight every single day over stupid pointless arguments, and I feel that through this, we are just pushing each other away.

We are extremely jealous of each other hanging out with the opposite sex, etc.

I don't want to be like this, and I know he doesn't either.

I've got this hope that soon all these petty arguments will stop, but it just doesn't seem to be happening, although we both really want it to.

I don't want to end it for good, but we're constantly on and off, and I don't feel It's healthy for either of us to continue the relationship as we just both keep getting hurt.

Any ideas to what I should do?:/


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Hello!


Right well, it's very obvious to me that your both young, you have strong feelings towards your boyfriend, and have build this loving relationship surviving several months! 


However, the reality of relationship's are that no amount of love will define it into a successful & long-lasting one without trust. Immediately after reading part way through your message, these insecurities over one another being around the same gender seems to create a lot of tension between you both. This is no way to maintain a relationship, or your love for each other, it's not healthy, and very destructive. 


Moreover, if you both were friends before the relationship, which i can only assume you were to have fallen in love, then you need to remind yourselves that you both started this relationship because you wanted to be together as a couple, therefore ruling out that you wouldn't want to be with anyone else. I understand that insecurities can be present in almost every relationship, but it's important that you control them, in many cases, ignore them, and accept that they are just negative thoughts in your mind playing tricks. If you cannot overcome the insecurities, then the foundations that love is built on, being trust, will simply collapse and you will result in a break-up. 


Finally, the arguments you have with your partner will only create friction between you both, my advice is to discuss your insecurities with one another, and without limiting each other to only seeing the one gender, talk about how you would feel more comfortable with each other associating with friend's of both genders. It won't be easy, however, you wouldn't argue if you didn't care, therefore you both need to help one another, not turn on each other.


I can only hope that you resolve your problems in due course, and may you have a long-lasting & successful relationship with your partner. 


All the best! Thank you for allowing me to help you!
It has been a pleasure sharing my advice with you!


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Shaun Alan Peace
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