Long Distance Relationship (LDR)

Hello Shaun!


okay so its been a month now that me and my boyfriend started a long distance relationship's and yes i know there hard :/ but were both committed to this. hes lives 3 hours away but a week from now (last friday) he got grounded and has no phone. at first i was freaking out because i didn't no what was wrong but his sister contacted and and told me. i worry so much and for some reason i think that he wont want to be together once he does get his phone back and break up with me cuz the long distance thing isnt going to work (even tho he says he cares very strongly for me and other things) am i just going crazy or should i worry? i dont know, im just so scared. any advise? thank you so much. 


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Hello!


Firstly, i would like to say that it's without question, very hard to be in a long distance relationship, but it's not impossible for it to become a successful & long term relationship at it's best! I think that for two people in love, especially at a distance, that commitment is one of the most important factor's before trust!


However, having read this, it's obviously that you're both very young, especially if your partner has been grounded and has had his phone privileges taken away from him. When situation's like this occur, it's only natural for the other partner to feel worried, and in many cases, freak out. Although, it's important that if you feel as though he will just end up breaking up the relationship, that you address if you're both ready for this level of commitment and maturity. This does not mean you can't be together, maybe just be friends, and work up to a relationship in the future.


Overall, i will say this.. It's definitely not a doomed relationship, whether it's too earlier for you to be in that type of relationship is dependent on you both, and relationships only work if both partner's do. Keep working at the relationship, stay strong, and just be happy!


I hope my advice has helped you!
Please feel free to ask for more advice!


It was lovely reading you're message!
I wish you all the best in you're relationship!


Shaun Alan Peace
Administrator