Hello Shaun,
Okay, we've been together a year and a half, we've been best friends for 5 years, since the relationship started, we've had quite a few ups and downs some my fault, some hers.
Recently everytime we have a disagreement she threatens to end it and similar stuff along those lines.
When I'm with her I feel like the luckiest man alive, and when I'm not I miss her, but there are occasions when she talks to me like I'm a piece of dirt and it makes me feel like crying (it has made my cry a few times), we do a lot together, dinner dates, walks on the beach etc. and I get on great with her family.
She knows everything about me and I know everything about her, we've been there for the hardest times of each others lives.
I' only want her to be happy, so should I let her go ?, the thought of it is tearing me up, but I can't help thinking she deserves more than me, she should be happy, even if I have to let my princess leave
I'm scared, confused, heartbroken and just need some advice
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Hello!
Okay, once i had read your message, it was obvious that you have build up a strong bond and friendship with the girl before dating her, which is absolutely brilliant, especially if your after a long successful relationship with her!
Firstly, it's common in every relationship for partner's to have moments that are 'up and down' and in many cases, it creates an understanding that draws closer two people.
However, as you go on to mention, she uses the 'break up' threat when you have these disagreements, i will assure you that some relationships will have this occur, and it's not necessarily a sign that the relationship is falling apart, or that she will break up with you, it's usually used as a defense, but giving you my advice, i would think that by agreeing to break up, that you will find out immediately if she will go ahead and break up, or simply take back what she has said.
Moreover, if she says she will break up with you, don't be too disheartened, as if that's the case, you would only be living a doomed relationship, therefore, be positive and optimistic, and go find someone who truly wants to be with you. But, if she takes back what she has said, explain that you only said you'll go ahead with it to prevent her using it as a defensive response to the disagreement in the future.
Furthermore, i think it is great that you have a strong connection with her family, which is important when you're in a serious relationship. Although, if she makes you cry, and treats you like 'dirt', it would be in you're best interest to either speak to her about this, or end the relationship before she does, because lover's wouldn't purposely make the other feel this way.
Finally, if you have both been there for each other at the hardest times, that's a quality that should be treasured, and in that case, maybe you should keep trying, and sort the situation with her directly about your feelings. It wouldn't be right for me to answer your question, only advice you on both options, and give reason for each.
Thank you for allowing me to help you!
It's was a pleasure to have read you're message!
Please feel free to ask for more advice!
Shaun Alan Peace
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